following my last post (which I decided to link to on facebook), there was an explosion of warm wishes and best regards for my well-being and wishes for understanding from my traditional Asian parent. Posting that link on my own profile means that this blog is no longer anonymous, but it also means letting people know how I feel and what I’ve been struggling with.
Looking at it afterwards, it felt like I had publicly attacked my mother – much like what I had done before to one of my instructors on my other, more regular blog a year ago. I didn’t want to antagonized my mom, nor did I want her to sound like the least sympathetic human beings ever. She is, after all, the woman who gave me life – and I am grateful for that. I am grateful for what I have in my life right now; but I wish she didn’t “reign” over me still. To say overbearing may be an understatement. Protective, caring, ok – I give you those, but when you have a midnight curfew AND a drinking ban (read: not even one drop) at age 24, don’t tell me you’d happily oblige.
Most people who showed their support and warm regards don’t know my mom. I’m sure they still gave her the benefit of the doubt when they read what I wrote. All but two of the responses came from Christian friends, one being fairly liberal and the other defensive. I respected each of their replies, but was definitely cheered to hear the former. LGBT is such a divided issue (I’d say it’s almost a religious issue alone), one that requires lots of understanding and open-mindedness, which is arguably what my mom -or any other conservative Christian- lacks.
With the unanticipated amount of support from my friends, I feel like I had an emotional boost… but like a red bull it only lasts for hours. I’m still at my wits end, trying to figure out how to weave my tangled web of lies. I’ve already come across an obstacle: how do I tell my mom that I’m going to live with my gf for the month that she’s here visiting? How, when I have a hard enough time asking permission for a sleepover, do I tell her ‘Hey mom, I’m going to stay with my gf for 3 weeks. Cool? Cool.’ ?