There are lots of really great conversations that happen at the guest house. Most are small talk, but some days you’ll end up having epic discussions on feminism, politics, representation of groups of minority in the media, social media and its effects on people, etc.
A friend asked the other morning, while I was writing a new entry for my blog during breakfast, why I blog. The answer was simple: writing is my creative outlet as well as a way for my brain to reorganize itself and refresh the thoughts the keep swirling around. But she scrutinized the fact that it’s published on the internet for people to read. Yes, I said, I’m aware of that; but that does not affect my writing. I don’t write for an intended audience, nor do I really censor myself when I write (arguably choosing what to write is already censoring in a way). I write for myself so that I can come back to it and rediscover what I was thinking during that particular time. It’s a record and collection of my emotional journey that I can look back on, if I desire to do so.
But you can write, say in a document, and not have it published on the ‘net. Hmm. Yes, I could do that. But it’s just not the same. I couldn’t pin-point exactly what the appeal of blogging is when I was questioned. I told her that it’s always been how I’ve written. This box and this formatting. So it had become sort of a habit. It’s harder for me to write otherwise.
If no one really reads your blogs anyway (or you don’t know who is), why bother putting your thoughts out there for the public? So that it’s there for people to read it if they want? I don’t post a link to every single post I write, nor do I shamelessly promote it. But people do have access to my thoughts. I make them public in the hopes that people will understand me better because I communicate better with writing.
She still wasn’t satisfied with my answer. She couldn’t get past the fact that it’s PUBLISHED on the internet for everyone to read. But what’s so bad about that? There’s nothing wrong with sharing my life, or wanting to share my struggles and happiness so people can perhaps connect with them and know that they’re not alone in the world. There’s no possible way to know IF anyone is indeed engaging with the content I’m putting out there in a way that’s helpful to them, but do I need to know?
Yeah, but you can CONNECT with people in person, on a face-to-face level. Yes, and I do. I connect with people in person every day. But somehow it feels empty. I’m not the “express my feelings verbally” kind of person, so I seldom participate in a conversation unless I have something positive to contribute (I make a really good listener though!). I write to soothe my soul; to declutter my brain. Perhaps it is also to show how lonely I sometimes feel in this world. At the end of the day, if I need to unload some grey matter, I don’t know who I feel comfortable enough to call. My blog is like a silent audience. It will listen closely and be still for however long I intend to write. It’s unprejudiced, unbiased, neutral.
Now that I’ve had more time to think about the matter – about why my thoughts are published on the internet, I can only honestly say that it’s part of my artistic expression. What that means for me, is that to be an artist is to create and show people your work. Even though something as streamlined or conventional as blogging is, it’s still part of my identity and artistic practice. So it might not look like art (nor is it intended to be “art”), it’s a way of showing people my “work”. And everyone knows that to be a successful artist you’d have to put yourself out there and have people engage in your work.
To further expand on sharing my life with the interwebs, I’d like to quote a TED talk by writer Andrew Solomon,
If we live out loud, we can trance the hatred and expand everyone’s lives. Forge meaning, build identity. Forge meaning, build identity. And then invite the world to share your joy.
I don’t think I can provide a better explanation than that. Sure, he’s not talking specifically about blogging, but the idea of connecting with people and sharing your life with them is there.