I can’t recall the first time I’ve ever came out to a friend… I don’t think there was one specific instance where I remember being nervous about telling someone my orientation. And I think I know why.
My story of how I came to realize I am not straight is fairly unique in that it didn’t follow a simple question-epiphany-realization formula (not saying everyone’s was like that). It was more like a questioning-counselling-fall for a girl-more confusion kind of roller-coaster. Yeah, there’s actually “love” in the mix; how exciting!
Having been single all my life helped a great deal, too. Because I wasn’t verbally explicit about being infatuated with guys, I was able to conceal my desires towards women. Somehow the fact that I never had a boyfriend solidify the fact that you shouldn’t rule out homosexuality as a possibility as to why I’ve never been in a relationship, or automatically assume that I’m straight.
So since my sexual orientation wasn’t outwardly-expressed, it became more of an internal struggle; a struggle to come to terms with my desires and affection for women, and a struggle to accept this “new” me. Life has been pretty good after rediscovering who I am, and I’ve taken steps to avoid hiding my intentions from those around me (particularly friends)… hopefully these little steps out of the closet will mean that one day I can finally be “free”!