After a week of trying to hold it together and make it seem like it’s not a big deal, I finally broke down and cried for the last three days. Good thing this week was a flex week because the tears didn’t stop and I couldn’t get any work done. I had to take a break every 10 minutes just to try to calm myself down and get my eyes dry enough to see what I was doing. I’d lost my appetite, too. Most of the times I’d be on the phone with friends, one after the other, talking and crying it out. I don’t think I’ve ever felt that my emotions were this out of control in my life. My eyes were dry at my dad’s funeral, and when my first ex and I split I felt more helpless and hopeless than sad or angry.
Yesterday was an especially hard day to cope. If I heard myself saying the things I was saying over the phone to my friends, I’d give myself a hard slap across the face. I was such a baby!!! I should give myself more credit and know that I am stronger than I think I am. Not being able to stop crying is okay, and not being okay yesterday only makes today easier to cope. My cheeks may be tender and my eyes may be puffy but I am at least able to work without breaking down.
The hardest thing for me to get over is the fact that she went cold turkey. That’s the part I don’t understand and get most upset about. We clearly still love each other and care about each other, so why cut off contact altogether? Why can’t there be a less difficult way to part as lovers? Why put ourselves through the pain of not only losing a romantic partner but also a friend? Why tarnish such a lovely relationship with a bad break-up? Why why why why why! I kept asking my friends for answers they don’t have. Letting go is already a difficult enough homework that I have yet to learn; it doesn’t need to be further complicated by a cold shoulder…
I kept wondering how I’d behave or act if I run into her on the street. I’m not sure if I’ll be able to say hi or give her the respect she failed to show me when our relationship ended. I wonder if I’ll bolt away as fast as I can, or if I’ll pretend I didn’t see her at all and not acknowledge her like any other stranger I pass on the street. I also wonder if we’ll be friends in the future… Guess I’ll never know.